In case you aren’t aware, today is National Best Friend’s Day. Last week we celebrated National Donut Day. It sounds like some people might have strayed from their diets that day. Either way, the donuts were delicious. My good friend from high school wished me a happy best friend day and I just thought about the friends in my life. Who are my best friends and have I talked to them lately to let them know how much I care about them? How are they shaping me, and more importantly, how am I shaping them?
I just wanted to share a couple thoughts after thinking today about friends
Friend’s shape who you are. So choose them wisely.
I can’t hit home any harder to college students when I speak to them to surround themselves with good people. You are who you hang out with. If your best friends aren’t going anywhere in life, guess where you’ll probably end up? You are the average of your top 5 friends. If they don’t inspire you, motivate you, challenge you to be better on a regular basis it might be time to get some new friends.
I remember realizing this five years ago that a lot of my friends weren’t going very far and that I have outgrown them. It was a very lonely time in my life but I knew it was necessary. I needed to surround myself with people who had the same goals as me and would push me. Now, I have a wide range of friends in my life. Some are non-Christians. Some are Christians. Some like to party a lot. Some never party. Some are business friends. Some I grew up with are now on the “wrong side of the tracks” etc… I can be friends with anyone and I accept everyone. But who you spend the most time with are the ones you need to make sure are the right ones. They are the ones probably closest to you and the ones who influence you the most. So let me ask you these questions:
1) Who are your top 5 friends in your life you spend the most time with?
2) How are they influencing you? Bad or good?
3) Are they someone you strive to be like or want to be like?
4) How are they making you better?
5) Are you just hanging out with them because it’s convenient or easy?
Are you giving back to your friends?
In other words are you bringing value to the friendship? Don’t be the person who always just takes and never gives back. Build them up, tell them you care about them, help them and always have their back. Cherish a good friend because they are hard to find. If you find one, you better hold onto them.
Thank them today for all they have done in your life.
If they are your best friends they have really impacted you in some way. More than you probably know. I want to give a shout out to a couple of my friends on here while I’m at it.
Shawn– Thanks for always pushing me in the physical/health department, Shawn-o. We have run countless races together. The Tough Mudder 2x, Jim Kelly 12k, Spartan Race, Buffalo Marathon, St. Patrick’s Day 5k run etc…You are always getting me to run some kind of race every year or try some different healthy lifestyle/substance. Thanks for pushing me.
Jeff – We became friends sort of where it all started for me. Our friendship reminds me where I came from and how I got there. You are one of the most genuine people I know and will always give me an honest answer when I ask for it. I could describe you in one word it would be loyal. Plus I always like to have you on my side in case I get into a fight haha. You’re an ex-marine/MMA fighter.
Dan – My Bro-tatoe chip. You were my best friend growing up even though it only took 21 years to figure that out. We are so different even though we have the same DNA. You have built my faith a ton this past couple months and I am so excited to see what God is going to do in your life. You have grown so much and have inspired me a ton.
Jon – Ironically you called me when I was typing this up. You stuck with me when I was going through some tough times specifically relationship issues. You had my back and had to talk me off the ledge quite a few times. You wouldn’t let me fall and held me accountable to everything I said I was going to do. You are so passionate about Christ and the greatest evangelist I ever been around. You love helping people and that rubs off on me. I am so thankful to have you in my life. I look forward to hiking the Grand Canyon with you and 4 other guys this upcoming October.
Leroy– You were the first pastor I talked to after I stopped going to church for 8 years. I remember thinking “this guy is really cool, he doesn’t seem like boring at all” because I always thought church was boring growing up. 4 years later we have been to Haiti together, helped start fight club at the chapel, witness my brother give his life to Christ at a diner in East Amherst. You were a integral part of me growing in my faith. Thanks Leroy your friendship and guidance.
Ryan D– We have worked together, we have lived together, and we have fought like an old married couple. I still can’t believe I got you to move up here to Buffalo with me over 6 years ago. I am so thankful to have you in my life. You help me see things from a different perspective. You’re a funny dude. I don’t think anyone could ever match our sarcastic comments either. Thanks for helping me see things at a wider view.
Gary– I love how you always point me to Jesus and his love for me. You keep me focused on whats important. You’ve become my best friend over the past year. I couldnt imagine my life with out ya man. You are a great leader and you lead by example. I love and hate your accountability at the same time haha. Im excited to grow valley creek church with you for years to come.
Choose your friends wisely. Make changes if you need to. You wouldn’t settle with your significant other, don’t settle with your friends either. They are a huge part of your life and shape you into who are.